Some of us seek out the warm, cozy womb of a romance as an escape. But is this really healthy? Sure, it is amazing to give and receive of love but how many of us use romance as a mode to escape from the mundane or the things that we really don't care to face in our lives?
I know for me, this has been true. When I've felt completely overwhelmed by life in general, I found myself trying to hide under the cloak of a relationship and what I noticed is that this created a desperation and an emptiness that became an even deeper hole than the one that I was in before. This caused a ripple effect in which I started to give away my power.
More importantly, I noticed how I was using my inherent need to be loved by someone else as a means of self-sabotage. My work began to suffer and I was not able to focus. I had become so fixated on fixing my romantic life that everything else fell by the wayside.
Awareness gave me the means to reflect within and find the validation that I was so desperately seeking.
And yes, I think that as human BEings, it is natural to seek out companionship. But it is also important to honor yourself and your personal needs before investing time and energy into relationships and the primary reason for this is that we cannot give what we don't already possess! You cannot pour from an empty cup and that cup can only be filled through getting right with Self first.
So if you find yourself stuck and fleeing to the inviting arms of a relationship with another, perhaps it is time to ask yourself, "what am I hiding from?" The answer may surprise you!
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